How to live the moment

It is come to my attention that at some point in life whether it is in our 20’s, 30’s or 40’s we might feel lost due to a disturbance of our life experience. I have been trying to figure out the meaning of “feeling lost”. It is a terminology most of us use when we are trying to find a purpose in life, or struggling with our identity. It is important to acknowledge the meaning of feeling lost. From my personal experience, when I was feeling lost, I had to come back to the present, and be in the moment, where I new I was safe. There were a lot of times where I got caught up planning the future, and talking about all this choices I had. It really made me feel lost, because I couldn’t figure out what was the best path or decision to take. However, it is important to know that regardless, of the situation, or the choices one has to make whether it leads us to success or failure we are still breathing. If you are breathing you are living. And if you are living you are learning. 

Last year was a little tough for me. It was my second year of marriage; I changed jobs three times, and at some point navigated two jobs while being in school. I was trying to find myself within the career I wanted to go into. I was really accelerating and juggling my life choices in one year. I am currently enrolled in a masters program for Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I am for sure passionate this is the path I want to take, of course it has not been easy trying to finish school, and working full time, but each day I know it is taking me to my life long goal. Yes, it is easy to go into social media and see everyone’s perfect life, but it is just a glimpse of their happy days. I will probably never post a picture of me crying past midnight, because I am so tired, and have no inspiration in writing a case behavioral plan for a class. However, I might show you that I finished the assignment, and that I aced the class. I will probably never show you the real struggle it is taking to finish this program. So let us not be so hard on ourselves. Let us love and care for ourselves a little more each day.

The Art of Life

Life is beautiful. Life is not easy. Each day it’s a challenge to move forward and enjoy the beauty within us. We are all unique, and have our own battles. I personally struggle with self-motivation from time to time. I have a goal and a dream for my personal life. I have a plan and it seems like forever to reach. Time will always pass us by. Time does not stop for us to figure out our next decision. I choose to let time pass by as I live moment by moment. Living the moment will lead to fulfill our purpose in life. Breathe in, and know you are free to be human. A human who is imperfect, but is willing to grow and learn. Always live with purpose. Let your soul guide you into the art of life.

BE PRESENT.

It is so easy to get lost in our own world, and not really care about your self, or your well-being. I sometimes get caught up with work, and school. I realized a lot of things that would upset me, or that would bring me happiness were fading. I started to care less, about others and about myself. I mean at some degree I would care, but I was not being present in the moment. There were people in my life who would sometimes drained me, and they slowly started to fade away on their own. I was not sure if that was the whole idea of being an adult, but along the way I started building new friendships. Friendships that I knew would last a life time. Friendships who are there physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I realized the true meaning of friendship was not always going wild, telling secrets, or talk about girl drama. When hanging out It became personal, and meaningful. It would nourished my soul, and I became more present with my friendships. I started grow personally and professionally in my career. I do not know where my future is headed, but I know that I will be present, and aware of my senses.

Listen to the Whisper of Love

Laughing our problems away. There were times I would take life so seriously, and wanted life according to society’s timeline. I know a lot of people have said everyone has their own time line and to not get caught up with what society wants. I understood soon enough that life was not a rush nor a competition. I had to take every step one at a time. I had to stop at every step and enjoy it. I always had a an agenda with goals and plans of life. And boy, if that did not go accordingly to my plans, I would freak, and get anxious. However, this year I have let life be. Just going with the flow and started accepting where I am in life, and visualizing where I wanted to be without compromising myself or people around me. We are all uniquely different, and have so many gifts to share with this world. Gifts are not always materialistic things, it is sharing your love, joy, and kindness to others. Sometimes people just want someone to just listen, and to be there. You don’t always have to understand the thoughts or acts of people. You can listen and love.

Learning to be Patient!

Today I woke up grateful about where I am at in life. I may not have much, but I do have an amazing and supportive man as a husband. Now, I was not always grateful, I nagged a lot about where I was at in life, and always lived life wishing. Wishing to graduate from college, wishing for a better job, wishing for a better car, wishing for more money, wishing to be married, wishing, wishing, and wishing. It was never an end to my wishing. Do not get me wrong it is okay to desire, and have big dreams. However, it is important to desire it with a good attitude, and trusting the process in life. I would always ask my husband how he maintained a positive attitude during our hard times, and he would always say, ” I trust in God”. of course, I would look at him and say “SO DO I!! But I am still anxious!” I wanted to run and achieve my goals in life from one night to the next morning. I had to really learn the term PATIENCE. I worked with autistic children, and really thought I had this whole patience ability down. I was wrong. Patience is not only tolerating children’s behavior without getting upset or frustrated. There has to be a fundamental process to gain patience. I had to seek for an internal purpose in order to have the patience. My purpose as an ABA therapist, is to give a quality session that will make a difference in the long run. I may not see a difference in the child’s behavior the next day, but I probably will in a couple of months. I had to really take a look at my life, and analyze my purpose of being in this world. Live life step, by step, and enjoy the present.

Choose Joy!

My husband is very patient, loving, and kind. He shows me his love by covering me with the sheets when I fall asleep watching a movie. He takes care of me when I am sick, and he always makes sure I am comfortable. He always wants to make me happy. Is it not the dream of every girl? That the men make their wife happy. We all heard the term “happy wife, happy life”. Well, yesterday a speaker at our church, said that husbands are not to make us women happy, but to make us happier. So let’s break this down. Happy is only a temporary emotion. Now, it is important to understand that it is a huge responsibility allowing men to make us happy. It is the reason I believe it is important we find joy with oneself before we get into a serious relationship with our partner. It may seem that happy and joy fall into the same term. However, Joy is meaningful and internal. It comes from our spirit, so being joyful is not defined with pleasures of entertainments, but with moments, experiences, and achievements of others. It says in Romans 3: 3-5 “More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Regardless of our circumstance God will bring joy to our heart lasting a life time. Be joyful in the moment You are living.

Dream…

So it is now August! Where has time gone. I mean were we not celebrating New years yesterday??? Life can past by us at a fast pace that we do not have time to even breathe, and look at the world outside of our bubble. So let lets remember to enjoy the moment we are living at. We might not get that exact moment ever again. Take time to breathe, go for a walk, meditate, talk to a love one or an old friend, make today meaningful. You don’t have to wait for that career, or for financial stability to live in the moment, all you need is to be breathing. I remember waking up some days and thinking what a bad day it already has been, and just wanting the week to end. I now believe I can turn my days around by just doing something I love, rather than contemplating about life. Let go of anything that is bringing your spirit down, and let God take control of your path. Listen to his voice, and you will go places you wouldn’t imagine. Dream BIG.

Growth

I am a human with so many flaws. I have gained and lost friends. It’s part of life as we grow older and develop into our new stage of life. Each stage it’s so crucial, you will not only learn so much about yourself, but you learn how much your presence can affect others. I have to remind myself to keep on pushing. If I am breathing than I need to live a beautiful life. There are moments in my life that I feel behind or left out within the generations. Growing into a positive mindset takes time, and practice. Trusting the process of our destiny. We don’t always wake up everyday and like the persona that is reflected in the mirror. Sometimes we will feel discouraged, and even contemplate life. Everyone has doubted their purpose in life once.
I encourage you to keep pushing and breathing this beautiful life. Be yourself, and always stand to what you believe in. Always trust the purpose. A tree grows every year, and regardless of the changes in the environment, it evolves within the seasons each year. A tree will never stop being a tree during cold winter days. So you will never stop being you regardless of your environment changes. You will grow, and evolve exactly where you need to be in life.

Starting all over…

I am not the person who takes life too seriously. I am free spirited, and respect everyones opinion about life and their beliefs. I am aware we are all different and unique in our own special way. There are times in our life we end a chapter to start a new one. There was a teacher in my high school who would always say “it’s okay to start all over”. However, I don’t believe we necessarily start all over. We simply start a new mission in life, and take everything we have learned to accomplish our ultimate purpose. You live and you learn. You breathe and you believe. You laugh and you love!

Fear of the Unknown

Last night as I was getting ready for bed, I thought of my journey in life so far. It has not been an easy path, but I have learned so much about myself as a person. I have grown and taken leaps of faith. I have learned to trust the process. God has a purpose and a plan for our life don’t give up. Life is beautiful, and yes sometimes is not always so bright. However, opening our eyes, walking step by step, listening to our heart, speaking truth, and being able to breathe has given me the ability to be grateful. I have always been scared of the unknown, I fear not knowing what tomorrow holds. I am still learning to trust in God and not fear of my future. I am growing and learning. I am outstanding, I am intelligent, I am beautiful, and I live a life with purpose. Be kind and loving to yourself everyday.