Marriage.

Marriage is not always easy. There have been a lot of disagreements that we had to compromise in order to come up with a solution. I marry my husband for better and for worst. And even though in the beginning of the marriage it is a little rough, there is nothing like having a partner to talk and listen to. It is not easy living with someone and compromising all the time, it takes patience and love to really achieve it. This June we will be together for nine full years. Oh my goodness nine imperfectly perfect years. 

            We started dating during our teenage stage, and well it is a time of exploration, and identity. At that stage we are trying to figure out the world, and the things it can offer. I left to college. I decided to build a relationship with God, and was a firm believer that everything always happened for a reason. I was confident in everything I wanted in life, but sometimes I would doubt myself. 

            I was a Christian with high expectations in life, but I would doubt a LOT. I knew that those feelings were not coming from God. In an instant I started doubting if He was even real. I grew up in the church, and knew that He was real, but during times of confusion and being alone you tend to get lost… I got lost, and stopped seeking the Lord, and decided to do things with my own abilities. I decided that being “religious” and always being the “good kid” in the group was not convenient, and then I decided to stop living. 

            It brought issues in my relationship with my boyfriend (my now husband). I was rebellious, and wanted to live the college life. I then tempted him to have sex with me. I knew I should have not dragged him in my problems. But I was hurting, and needed distraction. He then was in my same boat. However, he was stronger in everything, and I was sensitive, and selfish in the relationship. He decided that he would be patient with me, and prayed for me. He never judged me, or put me down. He was healthy mentally, and wanted me to get better. I became anxious, depressed, and self-conscious about myself. But my boyfriend motivated me, and was there, he listened and loved me. 

            He could of walked away and left me there with my own problems. But he made problems his, and worked along with me. I then realized that love is not always flowers, letters, jewelry, or ect. It is the act of love, showing up, being there, and loving you regardless of your flaws. I learned how to love myself, and truly Love others. My husband met this perfect Christian girl nine years ago who was confident, and sometime during the relationship she went downhill without looking back. His patience, and his Faith in God saved me. God saved me. And through my Husband I was saved by His Grace.  

Choose Joy!

My husband is very patient, loving, and kind. He shows me his love by covering me with the sheets when I fall asleep watching a movie. He takes care of me when I am sick, and he always makes sure I am comfortable. He always wants to make me happy. Is it not the dream of every girl? That the men make their wife happy. We all heard the term “happy wife, happy life”. Well, yesterday a speaker at our church, said that husbands are not to make us women happy, but to make us happier. So let’s break this down. Happy is only a temporary emotion. Now, it is important to understand that it is a huge responsibility allowing men to make us happy. It is the reason I believe it is important we find joy with oneself before we get into a serious relationship with our partner. It may seem that happy and joy fall into the same term. However, Joy is meaningful and internal. It comes from our spirit, so being joyful is not defined with pleasures of entertainments, but with moments, experiences, and achievements of others. It says in Romans 3: 3-5 “More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Regardless of our circumstance God will bring joy to our heart lasting a life time. Be joyful in the moment You are living.

Loving You

My husband it’s an amazing man. He is God sent, made perfectly for me. He has been patient and caring. As a women I always found myself being selfish towards him, and expected a lot from him. The moment I started appreciating than expecting I realized how strong our love is. In marriage we will need each other to lift up. Life has not been easy for both of us. However, we have each other’s love, and most importantly have prioritize God in the center of our relationship. Love, pray, and laugh. We only have one life. Live and enrich each other with positivity.